Addendum (demográfico) a la teoría de la proximidad

Extendiendo un poco el concepto de la teoría de la proximidad y considerando sus efectos dentro de una sociedad surge otra interesante propiedad en el comportamiento de las personas. Una regla de proporcionalidad basada en la distancia que crea el vivir (o no) dentro de un numeroso grupo de personas.

La probabilidad de que una mujer en edad previa al matrimonio esté soltera es indirectamente proporcional a la cantidad de habitantes en el mismo rango de edad en la localidad en la que vive.

La teoría de la proximidad

Quizás no sea del agrado de muchas personas, sobre todo aquellas que tienen una pareja, pero luego de reflexionar un poco sobre qué permite a dos personas tener una relación, parece bastante obvio que además de los clásicos argumentos que se dan, se trata también de estar cerca. En otras palabras, las relaciones amorosas son en buena parte una cuestión de proximidad.

On love

As weird as it may sound, and despite my young age, I believe I have a slightly good idea of what love is. While experience here may be a limited resource upon which to base all my descriptions and life surely holds more stories ahead, there are some bare and brief ideas that hopefully sketch the main traits of this particularly special feeling. The one and only behind both sublime creation and reckless destruction.

Among the many kinds that could be mentioned, there are some considerably remarkable during any person’s life. First there is teenage love. The purest after the mom-child one. After all, there is nothing more in this kind of affection than a sudden realization, the first infatuation. Then it all comes down to caressing, kindly kissing and holding hands. Nonsense is the best topic, and hanging around the best use of time. It fills a still-growing body and as result it floods it. There are no worries about future, long-term goals or carefully crafted plans. It is just about those eyes, that smile, the brief hours together. It is no surprise that once it is over it becomes a reference for life, and to be honest, that is only barely fair. With it boys and girls around the world learn the other meaning of the word fly.

And yet that one is not the strongest, most intense type of love a human will ever experience. That is the young adult love, the one that aims to transform the world one kiss at a time. Here challenges are mere obstacles to go through, thanks to this force discreetly contained in a pair of minds, bodies and souls. Lust, passion, fun, tenderness, commitment, beauty, youth, boldness, and attitude: every feeling and attitude is present to create a bond so strong it can blend lives forever or create a new one. Because of this, it is likely to become a major event in anyone’s life. Without prior notice, it poses the question to either give all or nothing, risking a life full of pleasures in exchange of a slim chance to get the greatest good ever conceived. The eyes that once made a boy dream, now urge a man to express a message more intense than any prose or rhyme the mouth could ever pronounce. At times they make it on time, however there are others where tears have to help the feelings escape as grief takes over. Unfortunately, it is slowly becoming tougher to reach and scarcer, and this is not because all of a sudden humans are less prone to match, but because of the selfish environment, full of fear and distrust, we are little by little building.

Among the darker varieties, one can mention the love that will never be. The unique and cruel realization it provokes once it is clear that it dwelled just inside one heart is probably one of the first memorable sorrows that will accompany a human being for life. More devastating perhaps is this kind of love when it comes back after sometime, right in time to remind the victim that it never really faded away. Hard to get over, it becomes lethally dangerous when the muse behind it never ceases to be nice. Enigmatic addiction, it may be the end for the ones that never realize that despite of their efforts, not all dreams come true.

It hurts and reliefs, haunts and inspires, betters and dooms, burns and soothes. It is the favorite paradox of mankind, one of the few remaining reasons for anyone to get back at least momentarily beneath the moonlight. An enigmatic path to divine realization, an energy so strong to last forever while revolving everything around. Hopefully I will decipher one day all its subtleties and intricacies, from the words that make it blossom, to the exact spots where skins has to be touched to make it last. Hopefully these revelations will arrive soon, right in time for me to share them with the most gracious, beautiful, wise, fun, sweet, kind, and nice girl my being will ever witness. The one and only. My partner for life.